How Narcissists Turn Others Against You: The Triangulation Tactic

Narcissistic triangulation is a subtle yet potent tactic used to manipulate and destabilize relationships by introducing a third party to sow division, erode trust, and consolidate control. Whether through spreading misinformation, playing the victim, or exploiting authority, narcissists use triangulation to isolate their target and create confusion. This manipulation can appear in various environments—personal, professional, or business—where the narcissist fosters tension and conflict among others while maintaining a central position of influence.

The emotional toll of triangulation can leave victims feeling isolated, defensive, and disempowered, especially when they are denied access to critical information or resources. Recognizing the signs—such as unexplained conflict, restricted access, or shifting alliances—is essential for self-protection. Practical responses include documenting interactions, setting boundaries, and communicating directly with others involved. Support from trusted allies or professionals can help counteract the effects and re-establish stability and confidence in the face of manipulation.