What the Term 'Flying Monkeys' Means When We Talk About Narcissism

The article "What the Term 'Flying Monkeys' Means When We Talk About Narcissism" by Adam England, reviewed by Dr. Daniel B. Block, explains the concept of "flying monkeys" in the context of narcissistic relationships. The term originates from The Wizard of Oz and describes people who carry out the narcissist’s bidding, often unknowingly. These individuals can be friends, family, or authority figures manipulated by the narcissist to harass or spy on the narcissist’s target.

The article outlines signs that someone might be a flying monkey, including always siding with the narcissist, spreading rumors, gaslighting, trivializing the victim's feelings, or passing on sensitive information to the narcissist. People become flying monkeys for various reasons, including being people-pleasers, lacking emotional intelligence, or being manipulated by the narcissist. Sometimes they may have conditions like narcissistic personality disorder or co-dependency, making them more susceptible.

To deal with flying monkeys, the article suggests setting firm boundaries, avoiding confrontation, seeking support from trusted loved ones or professionals, and documenting incidents of harassment. Reducing contact with both the narcissist and their flying monkeys is crucial, but it can be challenging, especially when they are part of your social or family circle. Mental health support is recommended to navigate the complexities of dealing with narcissistic abuse.